I don't hug my guy friends except for rare occasions (like when we're saying goodbye before a long time apart), I don't give or receive back massages from guys, won't hold their hands or put my arm around them or let them do any of that to me.
This has always been an important way for me to protect myself from having impure thoughts.
All of my girl friends I've talked to about this have thrown up their arms at that point and told me not to even bother; if I'm not attracted to him physically, it's a lost cause.
I think the media have given me this idea that when I really fall for a guy, I will immediately want to start making out with him. I'm not repulsed by him, but there's no sexual tension between us.
He's healthy and in good shape and not a bad-looking guy, but I just don't look at him and think, According to all my friends who are in relationships, that's a problem.I could count on my fingers the number of times I've touched this guy in the three years I've known him, and trying to transition my thoughts from viewing him as a brother in Christ to a potential husband is difficult.Before I found Boundless, I had already started a "buddy" relationship with one of my best guy friends.He moved across the country several months ago, but we still talk through email almost every day.
I think it's appropriate that I have been protecting myself from forming physical/sexual desires for him while we're still just friends.
I am very cuddly and comfortable with my girl friends, but with my guy friends, I basically have a no-touch policy.